tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post5646699063732287240..comments2013-09-17T21:07:07.299-07:00Comments on Wabi-Sabi Life: PromiseWabihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11197718938974431186noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-47350078434245005182007-11-07T20:08:00.000-08:002007-11-07T20:08:00.000-08:00Agreed, Beruriah, L's death was hard enough to bea...Agreed, Beruriah, L's death was hard enough to bear, but the stepmom situation drives me wild. <BR/><BR/>I remember hearing about how HAPPY L.'s son was when his father got engaged years back, because he wanted a complete family again. It was for L.'s parents to see their grandchild embracing another woman as a mom figure but they encouraged his bonding despite that. And then the stepmom completely rejects him! It's a double hurt, since I grieve for what my friend would feel, and for what her poor boy does feel.<BR/><BR/>Lori, it's interesting, I never really thought of it as a burden before, but I guess that pretty much describes it! <BR/><BR/>I have not discussed the journal situation with L.'s parents yet because what is happening with her son is such a hard subject for them to face. But I should probably do so. <BR/><BR/>I just have this feeling that whatever I do, whatever my intentions are, this is going to have consequences that I cannot begin predict. And given the already sad situation, that makes me really nervous to contemplate.Wabihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11197718938974431186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-36686349813373082182007-11-07T16:41:00.000-08:002007-11-07T16:41:00.000-08:00Oh... what a heartbreaking story from start to fin...Oh... what a heartbreaking story from start to finish. I would feel I was carrying a heavy burden, and it sounds as if maybe you do too.<BR/><BR/>Maybe you could include a letter with the journals explaining to him, in a slightly different way, what you so beautifully expressed in your final paragraph. That you want him to know what a vibrant woman his mother was, and that you know how very much she loved him.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528541804521203406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-23319946318222993222007-11-07T10:00:00.000-08:002007-11-07T10:00:00.000-08:00I wouldn't know what to do about the journals eith...I wouldn't know what to do about the journals either, but I think I would give them to him.<BR/><BR/>I think kids are older at a younger age, than we were. If that makes sense. And I think your idea of having that glimpse into his mother's life would be a good one. <BR/><BR/>I really don't know what I'm talking about--what do I know about kids or teenagers? But I just think that I would have liked to have them.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113578396438869433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-38211406961815846122007-11-07T05:04:00.000-08:002007-11-07T05:04:00.000-08:00Oh, what an absolutely heartbreaking story. I have...Oh, what an absolutely heartbreaking story. I have a special animosity towards step situations where the children with the ex is treated as less equal than the shared children. And for him to have lost his mother so young, it's making me tearful. <BR/><BR/>I don't know what to say about the journals. Have you discussed them with his grandparents? It certainly does seem that he might treasure them, now or someday. How can a father be so uncaring toward his only child, especially when he's without his mother?Beruriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171541078529309991noreply@blogger.com