tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post3701493120866038738..comments2013-09-17T21:07:07.299-07:00Comments on Wabi-Sabi Life: Used that Prepacked Overnight Bag ...Wabihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11197718938974431186noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-37891928540576514322008-01-29T14:27:00.000-08:002008-01-29T14:27:00.000-08:00Poor little A. I hope things keep improving. Ugh...Poor little A. I hope things keep improving. Ugh.<BR/><BR/>I have no relationship advice. Obviously. But, what you describe was one of Hank's beefs and my defense. Hopefully, you will be better at addressing this issue than we were.thricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528308384855206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-8915112839189225892008-01-29T08:29:00.000-08:002008-01-29T08:29:00.000-08:00You're doing the best you can with a series of ver...You're doing the best you can with a series of very difficult hurdles. Hope things get easier for all of you very soon.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00668661473260475342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-3234579585313383722008-01-29T07:58:00.000-08:002008-01-29T07:58:00.000-08:00Clearly, I don't know your husband, but I am going...Clearly, I don't know your husband, but I am going to venture a guess that he must've been very scared as an onlooker when bad shit was happening with you and the hospitals. Standing by with nothing real to do and no way to help is very hard on men. So I am guessing he might be scared of the hospital thing, of even going near one. <BR/>I am so sorry you are going through this tough time. I will be checking to see any updates. I hope Little A doesn't need oxygen for much longer and she gets to go home soon. <BR/>Thinking of you and your entire family.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-57635148239232512522008-01-29T06:49:00.000-08:002008-01-29T06:49:00.000-08:00Wabi, I relate to this part so much i feel like cr...Wabi, I relate to this part so much i feel like crying:<BR/>"I also suspect DH feels I'm failing him. I think he's like Paul More in Broadcast News, believing that like Jane Craig, I revel in making the right calls about going to the hospital with Little A. He just seems to take whatever I say about the girl's health as a braying I-told-you-so on the subject now. But the reality? I just feel scared and bewildered about all of this. There is no comfort in being right when it means your child wins a hospital stay."<BR/><BR/>For 12 years, I've been right every time whenever the kids are sick. And my husband? Wrong, every time.<BR/><BR/>I hate it too, but the reality is that after all the time I have spent with them on child care and while they are sick, I know them far better. Combine it with mommy hormones and instincts and a general obsession with their health?<BR/><BR/>He hasn't got a prayer in comparison. And after 12 years, he's given up, which is even sadder. I am now solely responsible for figuring out whatever is wrong and he completely relies on me. <BR/><BR/>Now I'm worried about what happens if I die!Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8974863353397119167.post-62594530776482970782008-01-29T05:46:00.000-08:002008-01-29T05:46:00.000-08:00Oh, Wabi. This is so terrifying. I am so sorry. I'...Oh, Wabi. This is so terrifying. I am so sorry. I'll be checking constantly for whatever updates you can give whenever.<BR/><BR/>Josh and I have been going through similar but smaller spats regarding Samuel's pain in the ass apnea monitor. There's just nothing more terrifying than seeing your little one in distress and I think it's so easy to take it out on your spouse because there's NO ONE else to vent your anger at to whom it will matter. Your DH must feel bad not to have taken your worries seriously, and obviously he wishes you had been wrong. I think it makes sense that you want him to acknowledge that you were right, but I don't know what to tell you about saying it to him. <BR/><BR/>You are not failing. You are just stuck in the most awful of situations. I'll be thinking of you.Beruriahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171541078529309991noreply@blogger.com